When your your wife is cheating on you, below are the sign you would observe in her body language
When men cheat they can be much more sloppy in terms of leaving clues and much more prone to attempt ‘performance’ lying, actively blogging it out or even trying to project blame if/when they are caught. (As in: ‘it was your fault for taking too many holidays’ etc.).
Interestingly this can be because they have been led to believe they are better liars and one reason given for this is that the women in their life might have been less likely to challenge their lies over the years, making their lie techniques quite childlike and obvious. They often don’t change techniques because they believe they have worked well.
Women can be more determined to conceal, meaning their signs are often subtler.
They can be less likely to project blame too, which can mean higher levels of guilt, leading to higher levels of stress that can often be visible.
The body language fluctuations can often be the first give-away though. When a woman is monogamous and in a good sexual relationship her sensual and loving body language responses will be triggered by her steady partner. This means that – although she might look busy or even grumpy in ‘resting’ mode her facial expressions will soften when she sees her steady mate and her body shape will change and become more fluid because she is likely to stand taller and arch her back slightly and relax her mouth, making her lips look wider.
If she’s cheating this look might well become her ‘resting’ look though, as her sensual signals increase as she becomes more aware of her sexual side and ability to attract. This can look a bit like preening with increased eye-checks in the mirror and a softened, smiling expression when she moves around generally. This display will then disappear rather than increase as usual when her regular partner makes a move to respond though, leading to signals like a facial clamp with the lips narrowed and self-diminishing gestures that can involve covering the breasts or crossing the legs.
2. Anxiety rituals
Lying or deceiving is a very complex process for the body to perform as you have to register the truth then suppress it before manufacturing the ‘lie’ performance and story. If you throw high levels of guilt into this mix you can create a strong stress response that can be difficult to mask. (One of the biggest poker ‘tells’ is the stress response).
Stress can affect the breathing, meaning a regular partner will be able to hear the shallow, more rapid breathing even over the phone, plus you might see an increased blink rate and an increase in self-comfort, anxiety rituals like fiddling with jewellery, foot-tapping, nail-picking or chewing etc.
Women will often be aware how complex deceptive lying is and attempt to create masks or barriers if they’re being challenged.
Using increased eye contact and open ‘performance’ bluffs are less likely. These barriers can be subtle gestures, known as cut-offs, like touching the face or partially covering the mouth with the hand, looking away or down during a lie or even neck-touching.
The guilt of the lie can produce physiological responses like blushing or neck-blotching meaning this can be a covering response dating from childhood.
4. Hello Carol
Cheating can produce the appearance of the imaginary friend to cover for evenings out and long phone calls. Using an actual friend for cover is less likely as it involves getting that friend to collude in the lie so it can be easier to produce a new ‘imaginary’ friend with an easy neutral name like Carol.
The vocal tone talking to ‘Carol’ on the phone can provide clues though. When women talk to social friends the tone will often rise slightly but when we talk to a sexual partner it will drop to mimic sexual arousal.