1. Lack of Trust
A lack or a loss of trust between partners is probably the principal factor for relationship failure. Without trust, the relationship is missing a sense of security. This can often occur as a result of irrational fears apparent in one partner linked to jealousy in the past.
2. Differing expectations of situations
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” (Mark Twain) This will echo various truths to those who have had a serious relationship. Unfortunately, couples can often be on entirely different pages in terms of their relationship expectations, particularly in regards to their career and family desires.
3. Careers moving at a different pace
As a couple it can be difficult to move forward in life at the same pace. It can often occur that one partner is progressing in their profession while the other’s career remains stagnant. It is rare that everything happens at the same time for a pair, which can often be a cause of conflict. Money too is the trigger of many relationship problems as partners can have different views on spending, leading to disagreements.
4. Communication failure
Ironically, as methods and means of communication continue to multiply, less and less people actually communicate effectively. Failing to communicate properly leads to a string of relationship problems and feelings of confusion and rejection from both partners. The secret to a successful relationship lies in the quality of communication – it is not just about speaking everyday but about actually interacting and engaging cohesively with one another.
5. Trying to change each other
Of course, with any serious relationship comes compromise and initially small changes in a partner can be favourable. When you first meet someone there is always an underlying conscious or subconscious desire to change them. Why? It can stem from wanting to maintain control in the relationship – people like the idea of the person they’re dating changing for them. Alternatively it could arguably be a projection of an underlying desire to change within oneself – it is of course easier to focus on changing your partner as opposed to yourself.